Tonight, my husband and I were chatting and somehow the discussion led us to talking about regrets. I was saying that people missed so much in their lives because of how we hold on to the things that we wished were different. I went on to say regrets are the images in the rear-view mirrors of our mind. They seem closer than they really are. They force us to look back; although, the road ahead is far more promising. I thought about how I unconsciously used regrets to hold me back in areas of my life and called it caution. I thought about how regrets have made me question my current actions. I thought about how regrets caused me to turn to fear and distrustfulness. Does any of this sound familiar?
What if I told you that regrets are an illusion? What if they were intended to distract you? What if I told you that your regrets were standing in the way of your peace? Would you believe me? When I think about it further, I realized that every single decision I’ve made was purposed to get me to where I am. I realize that the mistakes that I made were purposeful. They were supposed to grow me! And, regrettably, I’ve nurtured my mistakes so much so that I’ve determined an alternate ending for them, thereby making them the images I see in my proverbial rear-view mirror.
I‘ve had to come to terms with my reality and face a hard truth. There are no alternate endings. In the purest, simplest words I know (and for a lack of a better summation), it is what is it! I’m learning to relinquish my regrets and to redirect my attention toward nurturing the lessons that I‘ve learned from my mistakes! Some were harder than I would have liked and some not so much.
Here’s what I know. I can’t have peace and have regrets. One has to go. Which one are you choosing? Care to guess which one I chose? Grow with me!
Now, get you some peace!